You find out everything you can about writing a Best Man speech.
What do most guys do when they finally sit down to think about what they are going to say for their Best Man speech?
They go straight to Google and start searching...
“Sample Best Man speeches”
“The greatest Best Man speech of all time”
“How to write an amazing...etc, etc...”
I have important news for you…you are wasting your time.
When it comes to public speaking, reading countless articles, blog posts, strangers speech, and scripts will get you nowhere.
At the end of it all your research you’ll be left with some “All Star Obvious” tips and tricks like:
make sure you have a killer opening line…
don’t have more than two drinks before your speech…
don’t mention the bachelor party or the groom’s ex’s…
compliment the bride…
make a joke about the groom…
There...reading those 5 bullet points just saved you countless hours of opening new tabs and scrolling through internet fluff.
The guys who do this end up more overwhelmed and confused about how to write their Best Man Speech than before.
You piece together a Best Man speech using borrowed and overused stuff you found on the internet
So you’re running out of time and you want to take a shortcut...
I did this once. It didn’t go very well.
You see, we humans are smart. And we’re especially good at detecting when someone isn’t speaking the truth. This totally applies to someone who is reading off borrowed lines off the internet during their Best Man speech.
The wedding guests will know, the groom will know and you will know.
And I can assure you, giving a Best Man speech that doesn't sound like you and is strangely familiar to the speech everyone heard last summer is a sure way to crash and burn.
The whole point of your Best Man Speech is to be personal and sincere.
You want to share your stories and experiences with the groom and give the audience your unique perspective of the kind of person the groom is. You are one of the people who is closest to him right?
The reality is, your Best Man speech is like a gift to the groom and now is not the time to start shoplifting. Your high school English teacher wasn't down with copy/pasting from the internet, and now isn’t a good time to start that up again.
Go with your gut and be yourself. If you’ve got some stories to share, but you need help getting started on the structure of your Best Man speech - I’ll link a great free resource for that at the bottom of this guide.
You pay someone to write your Best Man Speech for you.
Put yourself in the shoes of a ‘professional’ Best Man speech writer.
They have a brief interaction with you, they might have a quick chat with you on the phone or ask you to fill out a survey. Then they delve into their catalogue of speeches they have written in the past.
They use search/replace to substitute the bride and groom’s names. Pull from their heartwarming/funny/sincere openers and closers based on what you said you’re looking for and BOOM. There’s your overpriced and totally unoriginal speech.
You’ve just spent your hard earned money for someone to copy/paste from their ancient database.
What are the odds that at least half of the wedding guests have been to another wedding that year? And what are the chances that in one of those wedding speeches the same tired joke, sappy intro, canned compliment to the bride has been used?
There is not better way to make sure your Best Man speech is a complete flop than the audience rolling their eyes when they hear the same joke they heard last week, last month or even last summer at someone else's wedding.
The speech will be written using someone else’s language and tone. Your audience can immediately tell and they will tune out.
One of our clients asked me once. “But hold on James, don’t professional speakers, like politicians, have other people write their speeches? There’s no way they are writing all that material themselves!”
You’re right! When politicians reach a certain level of success, they have aids to do the heavy lifting for them.
And those aids use a library of hundreds of old speeches to draw from. They can even use the video footage to analyze how the politician speaks naturally, and then use it in their writing.
So I’ll ask a question back to you “Do you think that same politician, when they were first starting out, asked SOMEONE ELSE to write their first speech for them?”
The answer is no, they didn’t.
They spent a ton of time crafting their speech, re-writing, editing. But, you probably don’t have all the time in the world here. Lucky for you there is an incredibly simple way to put your speech down on paper written the way you actually talk.
It’s a revolutionary, but ridiculously simple and quick method that nobody ever talks about! You can find out how to do it in the Speak-Write Strategy section of The Best Man Blueprint.
Once you've written your Best Man Speech, you ignore it until the day you deliver it
By the time most guys hack together a speech borrowed from many corners of the internet, they’re pretty sure that their speech isn’t going to be great.
And they are very sure they don’t know how to change that.
So what do they do? They put the whole thing out of their minds.
This is the reason why most Best Men on the wedding day are fumbling with their notes, hands trembling, voice shaking, making a slip-up, losing their place and in a lot of cases embarrassing themselves and letting down the groom.
They’ve used terrible resources to write it, they never properly practiced it and they’ve felt so bad about it that they’ve ignored it until the wedding day.
The reason why so many guys do this is simple. Most guys hate practicing, it can leave them feeling beat up and hopeless.
The guys who hate practising also really don’t like making mistakes - but making mistakes is what practising is all about.
But here’s the catch.
The less you practise, the more mistakes you will make, when delivering your speech.
You need to practice your Best Man speech as many times, and as often as possible, every day.
You don’t get help
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
I’ve been there too. And looking back, I really wish I’d just gotten some help.
This is the mistake that keeps most guys from ever having a chance of delivering a really great and successful Best Man Speech.
If this is your first time giving a Best Man speech, or even if you’ve never done any type of public speaking before. How can you expect yourself to know how to do this?
Most things in life take time and practice to get really good at it, but you’ve only got one shot to do this.
And the reward is big. Delivering a Best Man speech that has the audience cheering and guests shaking your hand and congratulating you all night long is what’s going to make the groom proud he asked you to be by his side on his wedding day.
But the risk is HUGE. If you don’t get this right - you could be up in front of a big room full of people and your hands are shaking, you lose your place and forget your next line, you make an offside joke and you are staring at your notes regretting you didn’t get help for such an important task. A bad Best Man speech can be a black stain on the groom’s wedding day and your friendship with him.
That’s why I created a straightforward, fast and easy-to-use solution.
In addition to this guide, I have a killer seminar that you can access and be guided through exactly how to write, practice and deliver your Best Man Speech in MINUTES from right now.
It’s JAM PACKED with dozens and of specific strategies and secret hacks for writing a speech in your own words in minutes…
Then I’ll show you exactly how to automatically and effortlessly practice your Best Man Speech in the most efficient way so you don't have to spend a ton of time practicing…
Also, I’ll give you a template to quickly and easily create an action plan for doubling the results of practicing your Best Man Speech without lifting a finger.
And I’ll include exactly what you need to have with you (and what most guys forget) when you hit the stage to deliver your Best Man Speech.